LifeInBitesAndBytes

Embarking on a PhD journey is like signing up for a rollercoaster ride through a never-ending theme park. You hop on with a mix of excitement, trepidation, and a stomach full of butterflies, knowing that this ride is uniquely yours. For some, the PhD train pulls into the station in a brisk three years, while others enjoy (or endure) the scenic route, taking a leisurely ten years. As for me? I took a solid seven years to complete my PhD, and let me tell you, I savored every moment of it.

The 7-Year Plan: A Joyful Journey
Seven years might sound like a long time, but trust me, it flew by in the blink of an eye. The best part? I never put my life on hold for my PhD. I was a full-time employee, heading the Business Management department with over 30 people reporting directly to me. Juggling responsibilities? That was just another day at the office.

I also never missed a single family get-together, celebration, or gathering. Family is my rock, my constant, and my PhD journey never compromised their well-being or their need to have me around. In fact, during my PhD, I welcomed my second child into the world. Some say when you start a PhD, you have to forget about your family and friends, and only concentrate on your research. I simply do not believe that. You can enjoy the ride and still maintain a balance between your family, social life, and PhD requirements.

The Myth of the Sacrificial PhD
Let’s debunk a persistent myth: you don’t have to abandon your family, friends, or social life to succeed in your PhD. Sure, there will be late nights, tight deadlines, and moments of doubt. But those are just chapters in your PhD story, not the entire book. My secret? Embrace the journey, keep smiling, and master the art of balance.

Life Doesn’t Stop for a PhD
When people hear about my PhD journey, they often ask how I managed to juggle so many roles. The answer is simple: I never stopped living my life. My days were filled with research, meetings, and deadlines, but they were also filled with laughter, family dinners, and the joy of watching my children grow. My life didn’t stop for my PhD; my PhD became a part of my life.

Strategies for a Balanced PhD Life
Here are some tips for maintaining that all-important balance:

Prioritize and Plan: Make a schedule and stick to it. Prioritize your tasks and set realistic goals. Remember to include time for family, friends, and self-care. I used morning hours (3.30 a.m. – 5.00 a.m.) to do my PhD work when my family is in faster sleep. Which made me to totally concentrate on my PhD without compromising family time.

Communicate: Keep an open line of communication with your family and friends. Let them know about your busy times and lean on them for support when needed.

Stay Organized: Use tools and apps to keep track of your research, deadlines, and personal commitments. A little organization goes a long way in reducing stress.

Take Breaks: Don’t be afraid to take breaks. Step away from your desk, enjoy a cup of coffee, go for a walk, or play with your kids. Breaks help recharge your mind and keep you motivated.

Celebrate Small Wins: Every milestone, no matter how small, is a step forward. Celebrate your achievements along the way to stay motivated and positive.

Embracing the PhD Ride
A PhD is not just about the destination; it’s about the journey. The late-night study sessions, the eureka moments, the camaraderie with fellow researchers – these are the experiences that shape you. Embrace them with open arms and a smile.

One memorable moment during my PhD was when my toddler decided to help with my research by coloring all over my notes. Instead of stressing out, I laughed and took it as a sign to take a break and enjoy some quality time with my child. It’s moments like these that remind you why maintaining a balance is so important.

Dr. Fariba Darabi and Prof. Isobel Doole: Guiding Lights
No journey is complete without mentors who guide you with wisdom and compassion. Dr. Fariba Darabi and Prof. Isobel Doole were the rocks behind my PhD success. Their humility and constant support taught me how to embrace the PhD with a positive outlook. They never gave me stress, and whenever I fell behind schedule, they empathized with my situation, encouraging me with zero pressure. Their guidance and understanding were invaluable, and I owe much of my success to their mentorship.

My Husband: The Unsung Hero
Behind every successful PhD student is a support system, and my husband was the best partner one could have. He was my shoulder to cry on, my shock absorber, and my mental supporter. Whenever I faced workplace chaos or emotional turmoil, he was there to listen and offer comfort. His unwavering support kept me grounded and motivated throughout the journey.

The PhD Community: Your Support Network
During your PhD, you’re not alone. You have a community of fellow PhD students, mentors, and colleagues who understand the challenges and triumphs of this journey. Lean on them for support, share your experiences, and learn from theirs. The PhD community is a treasure trove of wisdom, encouragement, and friendship.

The Finish Line: A New Beginning
Completing my PhD was a moment of immense pride and joy, not just for me but for my family as well. They were with me every step of the way, and their support made the victory even sweeter. The PhD journey taught me invaluable lessons about perseverance, time management, and the importance of a balanced life.

Words of Wisdom for Future PhDs
To those embarking on this journey or considering it, here’s my advice: Don’t put your life on hold for your PhD. Embrace the challenges and joys, keep your loved ones close, and remember to smile along the way. Your PhD journey is a unique adventure – make the most of it.

Conclusion: The Joy of the Journey
In the end, a PhD is more than a degree. It’s a testament to your dedication, hard work, and ability to balance multiple facets of life. Enjoy the ride, celebrate the small victories, and never lose sight of what truly matters – the joy of the journey.

So, here’s to all the current and future PhD students out there: May your journey be filled with laughter, love, and a perfect balance of work and play. Keep smiling, keep pushing forward, and remember – you’ve got this!